Comfort Eating in Recovery

Comfort Eating in Recovery

Beating an addiction and moving into recovery is no easy feat. In order to build a successful life a recovered addict has to change almost everything in their life. It is a really emotional time for the individual. And to add to the challenge, the individual will no longer be able to use d rugs and alcohol to comfort themselves. Even when the individual is years into their recovery they sometimes will have a hard time contending with their emotions. Life is and always will be filled with ups and downs and emotional highs and lows.  Unfortunately sometimes when people in recovery have difficult emotions, while it is good they won’t use drugs or drink, they eat instead. This is called comfort eating in recovery.

What is comfort eating in recovery?

Comfort eating is sometimes referred to as emotional eating or feeding your feelings. Comfort eating usually is a result of emotions not because of hunger. It is believe the main reason people overeat is due to comfort eating and it is also believed to be one of the main causes of obesity. Comfort eating is believed to originate in childhood when treats such as candy are used to deal with unpleasant or difficult events. People during childhood then learn the association between food and comfort so they continue this behavior long into their adulthood.

Comfort eating in recovery

Individuals who have dealt with addiction are at a particularly high risk of turning to comfort eating in order to deal with their emotions. The first few months and even years of sobriety can be like an emotional rollercoaster so the temptation or want to turn to food for comfort is really high. This individual can justify their comfort eating with the rationalization that they are better turning towards food for comfort rather than food. The problem with comfort eating in recovery is that it is not a harmless activity. Comfort eating in recovery can lead to many problems with their health as well as interfere with their ability to fully enjoy recovery. Comfort eating in recovery also can be a means to deny problems in their life and this is especially dangerous. Denying problems was a big part of why they used drugs and alcohol so this behavior can be especially foreshadowing and dangerous. Occasionally turning towards food for comfort is ok but doing it all the time in recovery can end up in disaster.

What are some other dangers of comfort eating in recovery?

  • Comfort eating in recovery can easily lead people to become overweight. Comfort eating often causes people to eat a lot more than their body needs.
  • Comfort eating in recovery can cause nutritional deficiencies. If a person isn’t eating a balanced diet they can end up with health problems
  • Comfort eating can damage the self-esteem by causing the individual to gain a lot of weight. A person who feels less good about themselves is in danger of comfort eating even more.

How to avoid comfort eating in recovery

  • Staying mindful while eating is important to not comfort eating in recovery. People who pay closer attention to what and why they eat are less likely to comfort eat.
  • Talking to other people instead of comfort eating in recovery can be especially helpful to deal with difficult emotions and pent up feelings.
  • Facing the root or why they eat for comfort. If it is something that is bothering them they will need to get past it to get past comfort eating in recovery.


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Relapse Excuses

Relapse Excuses

There is no good excuse for a relapse. However, there are several emotional triggers that are commonly used excuses people will use in order to justify a relapse.

Relapse Excuse #1. Resentment

Many of us have probably heard this: Resentments will take you back out. Holding a resentment is probably the most common relapse excuse. Resentments are usually in the form of:

Perceiving that others are trying to control their life

Expectations not being met

Perceiving that others are acting as if they are superior

Perceiving others to be hypocrites, taking others’ inventory

Superiors who abuse their power

Being hurt but others saying or doing something that negatively impacts the their self-esteem

When other people lie

Feeling slighted

Perceiving others to act unfair towards them and/or others

Relapse Excuse #2. Anger

“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die” When feeling angry towards someone else, the recovering addict/alcoholic often thinks that they will punish these other people by relapsing; of course the only person they are going to hurt is themselves.

Relapse Excuse #3. Boredom

After getting clean and sober, you might find that you have a lot of free time on your hands. Without hobbies or pursuing other healthy interests, you may become bored. This is another common relapse excuse: boredom. When we become bored, we may begin romanticizing our previous lifestyle, remembering the “good ol’ times” and conveniently forget about all the horrible stuff. This is a dangerous trend because, in the newly sober person’s mind, addiction wasn’t so bad after all. That mindset combined with agony of boredom is enough to convince most that relapse is the way to remedy their situation.

Relapse Excuse #4. Loneliness

This is kind of like the boredom excuse. When we stop drinking and drugging, we have to change people, places, and things. We may begin to miss our drinking and using buddies and, if we are not proactive in making new sober friends and getting sober supports in our life, then being lonely is the perfect relapse excuse.

Relapse Excuse #5. Disappointment in sobriety

As recovering addicts and alcoholics, we are used to instant gratification. That said, a life beyond our wildest in dreams in recovery takes time. Often times, we have to rebuild our lives from scratch. For some in recovery, this is frustrating and upsetting. They expect results and immediately! When this doesn’t happen, they will use that as an excuse to relapse

Relapse Excuse #6. Feeling depressed

Many addicts and alcoholics also have a co-occurring, or dual diagnosis mental disorder such as depression or bipolar disorder. In fact, that is why many of us sought out drugs: to numb those bad feelings. So, in sobriety, when those feelings come back, we retreat to the way we always dealt with them – by using drugs.

For those who do not have an actual mental health diagnosis, depression is still a factor, as it is for non addicts and alcoholics. Depression is a fact of life. But again, for recovering addicts and alcoholics, the temptation to escape these negative feelings may become too great to deal with and lead them to relapse. It is important to learn coping mechanisms that don’t involve drug use in order to achieve emotional stability in recovery.

Relapse Excuse #7. Feeling happy

Conversely, many people who have experienced a relapse say that it is when things are going really well that they slip up. Perhaps it is a way of rewarding themselves for doing so well. For others, it is a way to increase the already good feeling they have naturally. As addicts and alcoholics, we seek to increase the pleasure-causing chemicals in our brains while in active addiction. Once we are sober, it might be that this “taste” of euphoria from normal everyday good things, that is enough of a high for others, is just what it takes to leave us craving something more intense therefore causing some to seek it in drugs and resulting in a relapse.

Relapse Excuse #8. “Forgetting”

So many times, I have heard people who relapse say that they weren’t sure anymore whether they were an alcoholic or addict. So, they decide to go back out and “test the waters.” People will use the relapse excuse that they decided they weren’t really an addict and/or alcoholic in order to start drinking and drugging again.




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Success Rate of Sober Living

Success Rate of Sober Living

The success rate of sober living is unknown but it is most definitely better than the success rate of someone who doesn’t attend any kind of sober living after treatment. Lack of a stable, alcohol and drug free place to live can be a serious and almost insurmountable obstacle for addicts and alcoholics. Destructive living arrangements can totally derail recovery for even the most highly motivated addicts and alcoholics.

Sober living is an alcohol and drug free living environment for individuals attempting to abstain from alcohol and drugs. Sober living is not licensed for funded by state or local governments and the residents themselves pay for the cost. The philosophy of recovery in a sober living house emphasizes 12-step group attendance and peer support.

So what are the success rates of sober living?

Research in one California study measured treatment outcomes over an eighteen month period from a sample of patients who were provided sober living as part of their outpatient treatment. Participants were male, with an average age of around 40 years old. A fourth of them were criminal justice referrals. A third of them was either homeless or lived in a shelter. Residents were dependent on cocaine, alcohol, marijuana, heroin and amphetamines. Participants were interviewed at intake and at 6, 12, and 18 months.

The study found that sober living clients experienced significant improvements when it came to stay sober and even days worked. Involvement in 12-step groups was the strongest predictor of reductions in alcohol and drug use. The outcomes did not vary by demographics such as age, race, and education. The study concluded that sober living should be considered as a part of outpatient treatment for clients who have access to limited financial resources or reside in destructive living environments. The reason being, success of the individuals who were in sober living and staying sober.

The success rates of sober living are much higher in comparison to someone who doesn’t attend sober living. And it seems like the success rates of sober living go up even more if the clients of sober living also attend a 12-step group. The longer amount of time spent at a sober living residence the better too. Someone who stays at a sober living home and attends a 12-step group for a long period of time usually has a much higher chance of success than someone who just goes back to the original living environment and does not attend a 12 step group.

I know this is especially true for myself and most of the people I know who have multiple years sober. Sober living really can get addicts and alcoholics who have been unstable for so long the ability to start off on a stable and sturdy foundation instead of going back into the same unsteadiness once again. The success rates of sober living aren’t exact but they are good. The risks of going back into an old environment or giving yourself a better chance at staying sober with a sober living environment seems like an easy choice to make.


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How to Start a Halfway House

How to Start a Halfway House


What is a Halfway House?

Halfway Houses are transitional living places for those in recovery from drugs or alcohol. They are also called sober houses. Some people go to halfway houses from a treatment center, prison, or a homeless situation, while others go there to be in a sober and clean environment to begin the recovery process. Some residents are in halfway houses due to court orders.

Aspects of a Halfway House

Many halfway houses are run by people who themselves were at one time a halfway house resident. The houses accommodate either men or women. Most halfway houses require residents to pass breathalyzer and drug screening tests. Some houses have curfews.

Make sure the house is located so that your residents can easily get to AA and NA meetings. In recovery, we are self-supporting. Be certain that you are clear on what is expected from you and what you expect from your residents. Assign cleaning chores, including making their beds and keeping their rooms tidy.

Choose a house near public transportation for those of your residents who do not have their own transportation.

Why You Should Start a Halfway House

You should only open a halfway house if you are passionate about the cause. And, if you are passionate, it can be done with little or no money. There are various grants and loans available to get a house started. Learn from experience and check with someone who already has a house to see how to open one.

How to Start a Halfway House

Step 1: Acquire the licenses and permits needed to operate a halfway house in the community you select.

Step 2: Purchase or lease a property. Your financial circumstances may dictate this choice, but county, city, township and other lawmaking agencies frequently require property ownership before they are willing to sanction a halfway house in a residential neighborhood. Once you find one or more likely properties, have your top choices inspected by a certified building inspector to avoid “buyer’s remorse.”

Step 3: Renovate the property. Unless the home you buy was operated as a halfway house in the past, you’ll likely have to modify it to accommodate zoning laws that sanction the number of people you can house there, or any personal limits you’ve placed on resident capacity. Purchase insurance to cover the house and its contents, and add liability coverage to protect your personal assets from lawsuits. A regular homeowner’s policy isn’t adequate for a group home.

Step 4: Hire staff and create policies, rules and regulations. Having staff in place before the first resident arrives is a huge advantage, because experienced halfway house employees can help you write an operations manual and set rules, regulations and policies that will guide both clients and staff. Make sure you run background checks on everyone, from counselors to housekeeping employees.

Step 5: Set up the accounting aspects of your halfway house so it operates smoothly well into the future. Accurate records are important if you want your sponsors to continue making financial contributions, and it goes without saying that finding additional sponsors will be an ongoing activity.

Step 6: Implement programming. Residents released from rehab programs require an inordinate amount of structure in their lives so they can learn to become responsible members of both the halfway house and the outside world. Establish tight schedules that include mandated housekeeping chores, group counseling sessions, one-on-one therapy time, recreational activities, job searching and life skill building time. Plan social events, meetings and include alone time.

Remember: It is unlawful to discriminate in housing. The Supreme Court has ruled that recovering alcoholics and drug addicts are a protected class under the handicapped provisions of the Federal Fair Housing Act Amendments of 1988. If you seek a house in a good neighborhood, you’ll find it.








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How to fight emotional triggers in recovery

How to fight emotional triggers in recovery

Triggers are specific memories, behaviors, thoughts, emotions, and situations that jeopardize recovery. Triggers are signals you are entering a stage that brings you closer to a relapse. Triggers are the stimuli, the people, places, situations, emotional states, thoughts, etc. that can “trigger” an ingrained ritualistic response which in most cases is to get high. Learning to identify relapse triggers and especially the emotional intensity that they invoke can be an effective tool in how to fight emotional triggers in recovery.

If you really want to know how to fight emotional triggers in recovery then the best place you can start is by learning what they are. For instance, deep sadness or extreme excitement might be emotional states that trigger you. If you know those are your emotional triggers in recovery then you can begin to fight against them.

Once you know what your emotional triggers in recovery are you can then begin to set in a place a plan of action for yourself. A plan of action for fighting emotional triggers in recovery can consist of multiple different things. For instance say an emotional trigger in recovery for you is excitement. If you begin to feel that excitement and it makes you think about using you can have a plan that first consist of calling a sober support, second doing something to get your mind off of it. No matter what it is that you use to fight emotional triggers in recovery make sure that you are taking action. Change your state.

A good way to fight emotional triggers in recovery is to go for a run when you begin thinking about using. You could also choose to turn on some music and dance your heart out. You can go workout at the gym. You can go for a bike ride. You can meditate. You can read a book. You can really do whatever it is that works for you to fight emotional triggers in recovery as long as it’s something different than what you would normally do. A lot of the times when addicts and alcoholics feel emotionally triggered in recovery they don’t know why they are thinking about using and they have no idea what to do instead of go and get high. This can lead to relapse without the proper identification of what is going on and what to do when it happens.

This is why identifying what triggers you emotionally and then making a plan of action for yourself when emotional triggers pop up is the best way to fight emotional triggers in recovery. It is not easy to fight emotional triggers in recovery in fact addicts and alcoholics are hardwired to use in certain instances that’s why its good to have a plan in place before you are ever get triggered. Once you are able to implement your plan to fight emotional triggers in recovery multiple times it will get easier to ward off. If you make a habit of fighting your emotional triggers in recovery eventually it won’t be so difficult and then you may even find you aren’t triggered by the emotional states at all now.



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Social Anxiety in Recovery

Social Anxiety in Recovery

Social anxiety in recovery is a common issue for those who are trying to live clean and sober. In addiction, we often used drugs and alcohol to mask any unpleasant feelings, including social anxiety. Before heading out to a social gathering, we’d have a few drinks or use drugs to make us more relaxed and confident. When we no longer have those chemical crutches, social anxiety can become overwhelming.

Social Anxiety in Recovery: Give yourself a break

Many of us want our lives to get right back to “normal” after we get clean. The problem is we’ve been using drugs and alcohol for so long that we do not even know what normal is anymore. The important thing to remember about social anxiety in recovery is that it takes time to overcome it. You are beginning a new life and it is only natural that you feel a little unsure of yourself. Give yourself a break and realize that it is all part of the process.

Social Anxiety in Recovery: Practice makes perfect

As much as social anxiety in recovery sucks, you will never overcome it if you just avoid situations that make you anxious. The best way to get past a fear is to face it, but start slow. If big crowds overwhelm you, don’t go to big parties right away. Hang out with a few friends and get used to socializing in small groups at first. If you are afraid to share at meetings, find someone from the meeting to talk to one-on-one afterwards. Eventually, you will find it easier and easier to face the situations that give you social anxiety.

Social Anxiety in Recovery: Use coping skills

One of the biggest challenges in recovery is learning to use healthy coping skills to deal with unpleasant emotions. Listen to music or call a sober support when you start to feel anxious. Channel your anxious energy into something useful like organizing your closet. Recognize that feelings are just feelings and they cannot hurt you. Most anxious feelings will subside within 15 minutes if you focus your energy on something else.

Social Anxiety in Recovery: Practice calming techniques

Practicing calming techniques like deep breathing, meditation and yoga will cut down on the amount of anxiety you feel in social situations. Incorporate calming techniques into your daily routine and learn some breathing exercises that you can also do in a pinch when an anxiety-causing situation comes up.

Social Anxiety in Recovery: Keep getting support

A sponsor, therapist, or sober support can be vital when you are dealing with social anxiety in recovery. Surrounding yourself with other people who understand your situation can be such a blessing and can make you feel like you belong again. It’s amazing what an anxiety reliever it can be when you just open up and talk to other people. Many of them will understand exactly what you are dealing with and will be able to share their own experiences with overcoming social anxiety in recovery.

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How to manage your bills in early recovery

How to manage your bills in early recovery

Life has been unmanageable for a long time while you were out getting drunk or high. Now that you are in early recovery you are trying to be more responsible and manage the aspects of your life that you can. Bills just happen to be one of those things on the list of “to-dos for life”. Managing bills can be a difficult task for anyone not just those of us who are in early recovery although, being in early recovery can make it a bit more overwhelming at times. There is a lot of anxiety that can come with needing to pay bills, organizing them, and trying not to forget what is due when. Not only that but for those in early recovery there is the added anxiety of just wanting and trying to stay sober. So managing bills in early recovery should be as easy and stress less as possible. So if you want to manage your bill in early recovery here are some ways to begin doing so:

  1. Get your bills organized – As soon as you get a bill through the mail, email etc. Sort through it and separate the pending bills from everything else. When done organizing and sorting place your pending bills in envelope, pocket folder, or label a folder on your email as pending bills and place the emails all there.
  2. Don’t separate pending bills into separate folders – Keep all of your pending bills in one spot. Don’t keep the electric bill and the rent bill in separate folders. All of your pending bills should be in one place where you can easily access them all. It is a hassle to have to search through a million different places for all of your pending bills so just keep them where you can get to them all at once.
  3. Designate a time each month to pay for your bills – Find time to pay all your bills. Whether you set aside time each month to pay them all or you pay one every Friday. Have a schedule on when you pay your bills.
  4. Pay your bills in one place and keep everything that has to do with your bills in one spot – In order to manage your bills in early recovery a little bit easier make sure to keep everything you need to pay bills such as your checkbook, envelopes, stamps, pens, pencils, calculators etc. all in one spot.
  5. Immediately record what bills you have paid – As soon as you pay a bill, make sure to record that you paid it. Don’t wait until later to do this because you will most likely forget.
  6. Put receipts from paid bills in file folders – Once you pay your bills mark the copy or section of the invoice with the date paid, check number and the amount and then file it into the appropriate spot such as utilities, insurance, MasterCard etc.
  7. If you have multiple credit cards get rid of a few of them – Having a ton of credit cards in early recovery is unnecessary. Keep only the cards you absolutely need because having multiple credit cards can get really confusing and unmanageable pretty quick.
  8. Have envelopes already ready for recurring bills – For bills such as rent you can have envelops already ready to go and it will save you a lot of time and effort when you go to pay your bills. Just go ahead and make a year’s worth of envelopes with your landlord’s address on them etc.
  9. Set reminders for when bills are coming up – Most of the time when bills don’t get paid it’s not because we don’t have the money we just forget. So set reminders for the deadlines and dates certain bills have to paid
  10. Look into bill paying software which can do all of this for you – there are a lot of software programs out there that can do most of the managing of your bills for you if you have a computer and want to go that route. This can make it much easier to keep up with managing your bills and takes a lot of the time and effort out of it too.

Either way managing your bills in early recovery is part of living a new life where we are not productive members of society with integrity. In order to move forward in life we must learn how to manage basic things such as paying bills in order to slowly begin managing our entire lives.


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How Can I Find My Higher Power?

How can I find my higher power?

How can I find my higher power?

Finding your higher power is a deeply personal experience. Everyone finds their higher power in a different way. Some people have what they call a “moment of clarity” or a “white light experience” where they can finally see the world with clear eyes, and they know there is something bigger than them out there. Other people slowly start to notice things in their life getting better or the beauty around them, and they find their higher power from there.

For me, finding a higher power was a long process. I had been raised in a Catholic family, but as I grew up, I had rejected the idea of God. I studied science, and I loved math. I thought that belief in God wasn’t rational, so I abandoned it completely. In my mind, there was science and then there was religion, and they were mutually exclusive. I had been raised to believe that you either believed in the Catholic version of God, or you didn’t believe at all. I chose not believing at all. “Spirituality” to me, was just another word for religion.

When I came into the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous, I resented the fact that the word “God” was part of the steps. You may as well have told me that Santa Clause was going to come fix my alcoholism. It didn’t make any sense. Alcoholism is a medical disease, there are symptoms and progression. How on earth was some higher power going to cure it?

I didn’t last long that first time through Alcoholics Anonymous. As worldly and intelligent as I thought I was, I couldn’t open my mind even a little on the subject of spirituality.

Two things happened at this point in the process of finding my higher power: My addiction became much, much worse and the world around me began to change.

The drugs stopped working for me. I was having to do more and more to get the same relief. I started experiencing some heavy consequences. I lost my job, my relationship, and the trust of my family. But the worst consequences were the emotional ones. I was utterly miserable. I was restless, irritable, and discontent. I hated myself and my life, and I was desperate. The desperation allowed me to get to a point where I was willing to try anything, even finding a higher power, to experience some relief.

The world began to change as well. Spirituality was no longer regulated to the outskirts in my life. People around me began to talk about holistic medicine and the value of meditation. They practiced yoga and paid more attention to the food they were eating. “Organic” food and products were no longer something I associated with hippies out in California. Books like “The Secret” became bestsellers seemingly overnight.

I began to see that spirituality is possible, even without religion. I started my quest to find my higher power with two basic ideas:

1. I was not the most powerful thing in the world, and outside events were beyond my control.

2. When I live a life based on spiritual principles like honesty, acceptance, open-mindedness, and service, and willingness, things got better.

My quest for a higher power has evolved since then, in ways I can’t adequately explain. I am now comfortable calling my higher power “God.” I have a relationship with my higher power, with nature, and with other people that I cultivate on a daily basis. I also haven’t felt a need to pick up a drug or drink in almost two years.

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10 Things You Need To Give Up for a Successful Recovery

10 Things You Need To Give Up for a Successful Recovery

10 Things You Need To Give Up for a Successful Recovery

The things we want to hold the tightest to are usually the things we have to give up if we want change. There are hundreds of quotes about how if you want something to change you have to do something differently. Doing something differently could mean trying to find new things to add more to your life but it could also mean giving up some things in your life in order to allow new things in. Giving up certain things is particularly true when it comes to having a successful recovery. So what are some of the things you need to give up for a successful recovery? Here are ten of them.

  1. Drugs and alcohol -This is a fairly obvious thing you have to give up for a successful recovery. I mean part of the whole idea of recovery is to stay sober and clean from drugs and alcohol. So if you want recovery first and foremost you must give up the drugs and alcohol.
  2. Denial -It is a nice thought that we aren’t as bad off as people think we are but it is denial. We are in denial about so many things while using and drinking and also into our recovery. In order to have a successful recovery you have to allow yourself to hear the truth, see the truth, and accept it. The truth will literally set you free in this case.
  3. Fear -Fear is one of the biggest road blocks for someone who is trying to change. All the “what ifs” can sometimes stop us in our tracks and keep us from being able to be successful in recovery. Letting go of fear and taking that leap of faith is paramount for a successful recovery.
  4. Beliefs -Whatever you thought you knew and believed to be true, now is the time to let go of it. In order to have a successful recovery you have to be open to new ideas all the time and in order to do that you have to give up the old ones and open your mind.
  5. Friends -Unfortunately when we are using and drinking we make a lot of friends who drink and use drugs like we do. It can be really hard but giving up those people who might make it hard for us to stay sober is very important for a successful recovery.
  6. Control -One of the biggest points of any recovery program is giving up control. In order to have a successful recovery, the want and need to control people, place and things has to be given up.
  7. Blame -Giving up blame is one of the biggest things you have to give up in order to have a successful recovery. You have to take responsibility for your life. Constantly blaming other people will never allow you to change.
  8. Perfection -No one is perfect and life is not perfect. There are going to be mistakes and they are not reasons to find yourself consumed with self-pity. Needing to be perfect allows you to have an excuse to be upset when mistakes happen. The need to be perfect has to be given up to have a successful recovery.
  9. Past – The past does nothing for you because it doesn’t exist anywhere anymore except in your mind. Giving up the past can lead to a successful recovery because it doesn’t define you anymore.
  10. Excuses -Excuses are useless to you and everyone else. Instead of looking for an excuse look for a way to take action and change your life. This is one of the hardest things to give up for a successful recovery but one of the best to. When you stop making excuses you can start making a change and that’s what recovery is all about. Change.


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Arrogance in Recovery

Kanye West

Arrogance in any capacity is not an attractive quality in fact it may be one of the least attractive personality traits a person can have. People who are arrogant have overbearing attitudes, are difficult to be around, and quite frankly don’t make you feel too good about yourself. An arrogant person’s behavior can cause upset friends and family. People who have addictions and alcoholism more often than not develop an arrogant attitude. Arrogance keeps them from getting help for their problems and it can lead to even more problems if they do manage to get help and stay clean. Arrogance in recovery is almost worse than arrogance in addiction because it can lead straight back to negative thinking, negative acting and even getting high or drinking again.

Arrogance is defined as an offensive display of superiority or self-importance. Arrogance is an attitude or feeling of better or superior to someone, so much so, that it is overbearing. Arrogant behavior is rarely seen in a positive way.

So why do people act arrogant?

  • Arrogance in recovery is most commonly the tell-tale sign that the person has very low self-esteem. Arrogance in recovery allows a person to hide their own lack of self-worth by covering it up with fake superiority. An arrogant person would show off their possessions, achievements, etc. in order to convince someone else of how good they are or how much better than them they are.
  • Some people use arrogance in recovery as a defense mechanism. This is due to not wanting to show any vulnerability in front of the other person because they think they might get hurt. People who have a fear of intimacy usually will act arrogant because it keeps people from getting close.
  • Some people are arrogant because they have an actual condition known as narcissistic personality disorder. This disorder is one where the person is so obsessed with themselves that it is now a pathology. Someone with this disorder will be vain, egotistical, and arrogant.
  • Some individuals just don’t communicate well and they may appear arrogant but are not trying to.

So how do you overcome arrogance in recovery?

  • Learn to be humble. Humility doesn’t mean thinking less of yourself or becoming weak. It means owning up to the fact that you are human and you have flaws. Nobody is perfect and the humble person is honest about that. It takes a lot of strength and courage actually to show humility as opposed to fear based arrogance.
  • Meditation is a great way for people who are struggling with arrogance in recovery to have a deeper understanding of the way their mind works. This means that people who are arrogant can become better at spotting their negative thoughts and actions or behaviors like arrogance.
  • Spending time thinking about other people is a great way to overcome arrogance in recovery. If anyone is arrogant it is because they are worried about their own image, concerned with themselves, whatever it is it is all about them that make them arrogant. Focusing on other people stops arrogance in its tracks by taking the focus off their own life.
  • People who actually value themselves don’t need to convince other people of their worth, they will just be comfortable with who they are. Anything that helps someone increase their self-esteem can help them with arrogance in recovery.

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