Lies That Addicts Tell Their Loved Ones

Lies That Addicts Tell Their Loved Ones

Lying is a well-known part of addiction. They are a natural and virtually automatic way of life for addicts. Addicts lie to themselves, to their loved ones, and to the world. They lie about big things and small things, and they often get so caught up in their lies that they don’t even know the truth anymore. Here are some common lies that addicts tell their loved ones and the reasons they do it:

Lies That Addicts Tell Their Loved Ones: Lies to cover up addiction

What it sounds like:

“I only had a couple drinks last night.”

“That isn’t mine; I’m holding it for a friend”

“I don’t drink/use every day”

Why they do it:

Although not all addictive behaviors are against the law, many are. Even those that aren’t are highly stigmatized, even if, like drinking, they are socially acceptable in moderation. It becomes second nature for people with addictions to cover up their addictive behavior because they know, deep down, that if anyone knew how much they used/drank; they would have to make a change. Loved ones would be concerned and/or judge them.

Lies That Addicts Tell Their Loved Ones: Lies to avoid confrontation

What it sounds like:

“I can’t make it to your house to talk, I have to do X, Y, or Z.”

“I need these medications; a doctor prescribed them to me.”

“I’m not that bad, you’re overreacting.”

“I don’t drink as much as [other person]; he/she is the one who really needs help.”

Why they do it:

Although loved ones of addicts often find them confrontational, in reality, they often want to avoid confrontation, especially when it is about their behavior. To avoid confrontation they may get really angry to try to manipulate you into backing down or they may simply lie. Addicts rely heavily on drugs and alcohol to be able to cope with the stresses of life. Being confronted by another person is very stressful, and it is something they have a hard time dealing with. They may even try to make you believe it is your fault they are using because you confronted them in the first place.

Lies That Addicts Tell Their Loved Ones: Lies to avoid negative consequences

What it sounds like:

“I didn’t steal that”

“I can’t do it today, I’m sick”

“My car broke down; I’m not going to make it in”

Why they do it:

Addicts lie to protect themselves. They know if they tell the truth, they will have to face negative consequences-losing jobs, relationships, or even facing legal charges. It is much easier to lie than to own up to the fact that their using/drinking is affecting their everyday life and/or causing them to break the law.

Lies That Addicts Tell Their Loved Ones: Lies where they are the victim

What it sounds like:

“It’s your fault I drink/use drugs. If I didn’t have such a terrible childhood, I wouldn’t need them”

“If you had to deal with the things I have, you would be drinking too.”

Why they do it:

These are lies that the addict themselves may not even realize are lies. They may even be based on a kernel of truth. It is their way of transferring blame for their addiction to another person or situation. They love to play the victim, and will use anything negative events in their lives as an excuse to keep using or drinking. If they don’t have the responsibility for using or drinking, they also don’t have the responsibility for quitting.

If you need help with your addiction please call us at 800-507-7389.

Lies That Addicts Tell Themselves

Lies Addicts Tell Themselves

Addicts are very adept at lying to themselves. After all, it is hard to accept that you have a chronic, relapsing and progressive disease. It is hard to accept that you need help. It is hard to accept that you probably will never be able to drink or use drugs ever again. Here are the top lies that addicts tell themselves:

1. I am not an addict: Even with all the proof in the world, an addict can tell themselves that they are not an addict. The truth is hard to swallow. Even when addicts are in recovery, there comes a point where they start wondering if they are really an addict. They start to think maybe they CAN do drugs recreationally. After all, they’ve quit for this long. What could it hurt?

2. I will only use on the weekend or I will quit tomorrow: This is one of the biggest lies that addicts tell themselves in active addiction. Sometimes, they may even be able to put down the drugs for a little while. Inevitably, however, they always end up right back in the same place.

3. Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous are cults:One of the lies that addicts tell themselves is that AA and NA are not going to work for them because they are cult-like, too religious, or whatever else. They tell themselves that members are nothing more than brainwashed cult members who have become “addicted” to meetings instead of drugs. They may say “They’ve simply traded one addiction for another!” This gives them a way to dismiss the program without ever really trying it.

4 I can probably still drink/smoke pot: This is one of the most common lies addicts tell themselves. No one likes to hear that they will have to stay abstinent forever, so addicts will often convince themselves that they can drink or do other drugs as long as they stay away from their drug of choice. They may say “But I never had a problem with alcohol!” Inevitably, this almost always ends up one of two ways: Alcohol or pot stops doing the trick and they go back to their drug of choice, or they end up getting physically addicted to the new substance.

5. I need this! I have pain! : With the advent of doctors becoming more and more liberal about prescribing pain medication for minor conditions, many addicts are able to convince themselves that they NEED the drugs. This can be one of the most dangerous lies that addicts tell themselves, because it gives them an excuse to keep using. They say “I have a medical condition, and a doctor GAVE ME THESE PILLS.” Very rarely is the addict taking the medication as prescribed. Often, too, it is very difficult to assess the true level of pain when you are physically dependent on pain medication. Your body adapts to the meds and stops producing natural pain killing chemicals, so when you stop or cut down, you feel much more pain than you would if you had never taken them.

If you need help with your addiction please call us at 800-507-7389.